By producing love songs for a living, R&B singers put a lot of pressure on themselves to be the imaginary lover to a 1,000 women, even though they might eventually become the Romeo to just one Juliet.
Their music speaks to women’s imaginations and makes them run wild! It’s the promise of fireworks when they’re together, the candlelight dinners, the nights of passionate love-making and a momentary escape from their relationship with ‘regular’ men – the modern, male R&B singer is a package deal that is almost always on sale, but his female fans can’t ever truly buy.
For over a decade Banky W has wrapped up stories about love and presented them beautifully in 5 solo projects, namely: The Undeniable EP (2003), Back In the Buildin’ (2005), Mr. Capable (2008), The W Experience (2009) and R&BW (2013). In that time, the singer has ascended to the top of Nigerian music and is arguably the most successful traditional R&B singer of the modern era.
As expected, like most male R&B superstars, Banky’s music raises the bar of expectation for his personal life. Little wonder then that in every single interview in the last few years, the singer is routinely harassed with questions about his personal life – Who were all these love songs written for? Who is Banky W dating? Why hasn’t he settled down? But the singer put an end to that line of questioning today in grand style. In a two-part Instagram post, Banky announced his engagement to actress Adesua Etomi and his uber-romantic message was nothing short of R&B: right on brand.
Dear Susu (part 1) We crossed paths 2 or 3 times since 2012, but I wasn't paying enough attention. Destiny was staring me right in the face and I was too caught up in my own hustle and paper chase, to know it. In June 2015 however, God brought you my way again, and this time, I really SAW you. I was smitten by your grace, aura, and beauty. So smitten infact, that even though I didn't get to say a word to you that day (because you were seated far across the room), I immediately called my best friend @captdemuren and told him I'd found my next girlfriend. LOL. He laughed. I asked one or two people about you.. your manager Isioma, who I'd worked with previously, and then I did some research myself. Googled you, stalked your instagram.. the whole 9 yards, and the more I found out, the more you seemed like a breath of fresh air. Now I personally don't like being "hooked up", so I decided to approach you myself by sliding into your DM a few days later. Introduced myself, made some silly attempts to make you laugh, told you I planned to become your biggest fan, and asked if we could be friends. Thank God you laughed at my silly jokes, and thank God you graciously agreed to become my friend. At the time, I was COMPLETELY lying about only wanting to be friends, by the way.. but I figured it was a safe place to start. Since that DM, I've spoken to you pretty much every single day for almost 2 years. Sometimes, in the morning, at night and in between. We clicked instantly, and you quickly became one of my favourite people on earth, and one of my closest friends. It got to the point where my day wouldn't quite feel right without speaking to you. I needed your friendship. I needed, and still need, the bond we share. It completes me. I knew pretty early in the process that I wanted to spend forever with you. Prayed about it fervently. But it took you FOREVER (okay fine.. maybe a year and a half or so) to see things my way. But I kinda knew all along.. I was just waiting for you to catch up. (To be continued pls read part 2)
Dear Susu (part II) In that time, I got engaged to you in my "made for you" music video… and by pure coincidence, we both got cast to get married in the wedding party movie.. but all the while we were the very best of friends. I guess, in our case, real life will now imitate art. I'm not sure what the future will bring, but I'm completely sure that I am ready to face it with you by my side. I pray that God continues to build me into the kind of man that you deserve. I love you Susu.. I feel safe and at peace with you. You mean the world to me. Thank you for agreeing to be my lover and best friend. Thank you for agreeing to be my wife. PS: The timing of this may make some people think this is promo for another video, or a movie. It isn't. Ironically, everyone who has seen us together in art, or in life, always insists that we have amazing chemistry. I guess you can say we have been hiding in plain sight. I fell in love with an Actress. Now my life is a movie. In February of 2017, I asked Adesua Tolulope Oluwaseun Etomi to be my wife. She said Yes.
Banky’s announcement has been trending all day on social media and rightly so, you want your R&B singers to do R&B things and it doesn’t get more R&B than this.
The announcement puts an end to months of speculation that the extremely good-looking pair were an item. The couple fueled speculation when Adesua was picked as Banky’s love interest in the “Made for You” video and caused even more speculation when they were cast as couples in the hit movie Wedding Party.
The couple, and the rest of the cast of the movie, is reportedly hard at work on the sequel to Wedding Party and Banky W, the man who made a career promoting love stories, insists that this time, his own love is not for promo.